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The Church-Killing Sin of Gossip

February 14, 2013 by Larry Lazarus 0 comments

Posted in: Christian Living

On his blog, Justin Taylor made a very helpful post on dealing with the issue of gossip.  I have heard gossip defined as sharing information about someone to another person, when that person is not a part of the problem or the solution.  I think that is a helpful way to think about the issue. 

Taylor quotes Dan Phillips, who shares some very insighful ways to respond to another person if they have shared something with you that you feel is inappropriate:

1. Ask, “Why are you telling me this?” Often, that in itself is such a focusing question that it can bring an end to the whole unpleasant chapter. It has the added benefit that it can help a person whose intentions are as good as his/her judgment is bad.

2. Ask, “What’s the difference between what you’re telling me and gossip?” See above; same effect, same potential benefits.

3. Ask, “How is your telling me that thought, that complaint, that information going to help you and me love God and our brothers better, and knit us closer together as a church in Christ’s love?” Isn’t that the goal we should share, every one of us? Won’t it take the working of each individual member (Eph. 4:16)? Isn’t the watch-out for harmful influences an every-member ministry (Heb. 3:12-13; 10:24; 13:12-15)?

4. Ask, “Now that you’ve told me about that, what are you going to do about it?” While the previous two are subjective, this is not. If neither of the previous two questions succeeded in identifying gossip/whispering/sowing-dissension for what they are, the answer to this question will do so. Tip: if the answer is “Pray,” a good response might be “Then why didn’t you do that and leave it there in the first place?”

5. Say, “Now that you’ve told me about that, you’ve morally obligated me to make sure you talk to ____ about it. How long do you think you need, so I can know when this becomes a sin that I will need to confront in you?” The least that this will accomplish is that you’ll fall off the list of gossips’/whisperers’ favorite venting-spots. The most is that you may head off a church split, division, harmed souls, sidelined Gospel ministry, and waylaid discipleship. Isn’t that worth it?

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